When the kids were quite little and did something wrong, we used to have to encourage them to apologize. Then, to reward this behavior they would be forgiven, get love, etc. Somehow, this has falsely ballooned into a get-out-of-jail-free card for the kids. Not so.
You see, now when they do things they know is wrong "sorry" pops out WITHOUT hesitation - as if the slate will be wiped clean instantly. So NOW we're teaching that sorry is for accidents and that one must make wise choices OR pay the price for wrong-doing (whether "sorry" is uttered or not). Let me paint the picture.
Paige is holding the Wii remote. Will thinks it was his turn 30 seconds ago. There is a mild struggle and the remote gets ripped from Paige's hand ALMOST SIMULTANEOUSLY as he is turning towards me and saying "sorry." Yes. We will continue to work on this.
Kenny’s 15 and Luke’s 12 year stats
6 years ago
2 comments:
Excellent!! I love the whole "consequence for choice" school of thought, whether the choices are good ones or bad ones. Makes me glad to know that there are parents in the world who still believe in discipline. :)
This reminds me of when you taught Paige to say "excuse me" to tell you something when you were on the phone. Remember how she'd say "excuse me" and without a pause go into her story - then you had to teach her what things could wait and what was important enough to interrupt you for - I love it!!
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